Category Archives: Posts

Stressful communications – using the Aikido of mindful communication

Aikido means ‘The way of harmony with the energy of the universe.’ 

How do you usually handle conflict, stressful communications and relationships?

Do you avoid?

Do you become passive-aggressive?

Do you play the victim?

Do you confront?


Do you blend?

Entering and blending is an aspect of mindful communication that is designed to help people break out of habitual reactions to threatening, emotional, or stressful interaction and instead blend with the other’s energy in a way that reduces the conflict and does no harm to you or the other.

Entering and blending involves four  steps:

 Align- Put yourself in the other person’s shoes, practicing mindful listening and asking for clarification if necessary,  as in “I want to understand your point of view better. Tell me more about what’s going on.” 

Agree- Find areas you can agree on , as you begin to look in same direction, as in “If I were treated that way, I’d be angry to”, or “I am also disappointed about this situation”, speaking only for yourself.

Redirect- Team up with the other person and work together to find a way to resolve the situation, as in “We’re both disappointed about the situation. What can we do to make it better?”

Resolve- Explore what might be a mutually agreeable compromise, or just agreeing to disagree, as for example, “If I ate out less, could we get a housekeeper so we could spend more time together?”

 Entering and blending also presupposes that you are mindful of your own internal state, to begin with. Giving yourself the space to notice first, rather than reacting immediately. Take a moment to breathe and opt out of habitual stressful reactions.   (



Grounding yoga poses: The Mountain Pose


Grounding yoga poses help to quieten the mind. You literally ‘earth’ yourself to the ground to foster a sense of being centered, calmness and connection.

The Mountain Pose is a basic grounding yoga pose. In this pose, you align your body with good posture as you stand activated and grounding through the feet.

The Mountain Pose is one of the best grounding yoga poses because it requires a solid foundation through the feet and a straight spine that allows free movement of energy both up and down.

There are many alignment clues you could focus on to come into the Mountain yoga pose:

  • Stand with your feet walking distance apart to improve your balance. If you prefer, keep the feet together.
  • Breathe steadily and rhythmically, as you would normally. Draw your awareness inward. Focus on the present moment, letting the thoughts of the day fade away. Continue reading

Listen to the Exhortation of the Dawn! by Kalidasa

Listen to the Exhortation of Dawn!

Look to this day!

For it is Life, the very Life of Life. In its brief course lie all the

Verities and Realities of your Existence.

The Bliss of Growth,

The Glory of Action,

The Splendor of Beauty;

For Yesterday is but a Dream,

And To-morrow is only a Vision;

But To-day well lived makes

Every Yesterday a Dream of Happiness,

And every Tomorrow a Vision of Hope.

Look well  therefore to this Day!

Such is the Salutation of the Dawn!

CPD points for HPCSA professionals attending Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction

The HPCSA approved 22 CPD points for registered healthcare providers attending the 8-week Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) programme.

Health care professionals benefit from this training firstly in terms of their own self-care and stress. A number of studies indicate the positive benefits of mindfulness training on healthcare workers. Goodman and Shorling conclude: ‘A continuing education course based on mindfulness-based stress reduction was associated with significant improvements in burnout scores and mental well-being for a broad range of healthcare providers.’ (A mindfulness course decreases burnout and improves well-being among healthcare providers. Int J Psychiatry Med. 2012;43(2):119-28.)

Healthcare providers also attend the Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction programme in order to to integrate mindfulness practices into their professional work.